why would you want to avoid what's uncomfortable

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sometimes, tears

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what is refinement?

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maybe the stuff you hate or don't understand, you hate & don't understand because it doesn't seem to validate you (maybe it even invalidates you)

what does it mean for something to contradict you like that (i.e. what might happen if you accept contradiction?)

it's not that something magical is going to happen if you ~~~just accept difference, man~~~ but it is a serious question

it's not that -- i don't know if -- i wouldn't suggest going and looking for pain because it's always there, isn't it?